Fit For Marriage

Are You Fit For Marriage?

The Family Foundation—The Plan

C. Russell Yates, Director

Jesus said, “I came down from heaven, not to do mine own will, but the will of him that sent me” (John 6:38). Biblical marriages and godly children are foundational to the purposes of God on earth and in heaven. This happens when a Christian man loves his wife, and when a believing woman submits to her husband.

We live in an egalitarian age in which manhood and womanhood have been rejected in favor of “personhood.” In Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, David J. Ayers called it “an ideological crusade against common sense.” And how has the Christian church responded?

Believers have been cowed by our pagan culture. A friend, Steve, tells of his wedding experience. An out of town church was convenient for the ceremony, and they had made arrangements to rent the sanctuary. After the invitations had been sent, the pastor of the church said they were not allowed to read from Ephesians 5 during the ceremony.

From the pastor to the parishioner, Christians refuse to speak out and stand up for biblical marriage. Even our wedding vows have been modified to accommodate the culture.

Then said I, Woe is me! for I am undone;
because I am a man of unclean lips,
and I dwell in the midst of a
people of unclean lips … .Isaiah 6:5

Are we less guilty than the people of Isaiah's day? When we refuse to speak the truth about marriage?

Then flew one of the seraphims unto me,
having a live coal in his hand … 
And he laid it upon my mouth … .Isaiah 6:6-7

How Forthright is God?

The Bible accurately records events in the lives of real people. When Abraham lied about Sarah—when David sinned with another man's wife—God reported what happened. God tells it like it is. But when men write books, the author filters out that which would offend human sensibilities.

When I wrote my book, Restoring the Father to the Family, I tried to follow the biblical example of openness. My editors and advisers suggested a more conventional approach, but I stood my ground. The miracle is that the book was even published.

Restoring the Father to the Family is my story. It is the saga of a real man who was seeking with all his strength—to first learn the truth about marriage, and then to apply that truth to his own marital situation. The struggle spanned a twelve year period, but the Lord has rewarded Theresa and me with a godly marriage that is both simple and profound.

We are now reaping the benefits of a “love-and-submit” relationship, and we want to export that blessing to others. Between my wife and me, everything that was wrong is now right. (Ongoing mutual correction is part of that rightness.) The beauty of the Lord is now reflected in our daughter's face. But that did not happen until our marriage had been established. Deborah then began to blossom—she began to share in the marital bounty that became ours. The blessing will endure to the third generation.

Did I make mistakes along the way? Of course! Are they revealed in my book? Yep! Will this Family Foundation Ministry be without flaw? No way! Even the great Prophets Elijah and John the Baptist needed correction.

Here's the plan: The family foundations have been destroyed (Psalms 11:3). It's time to rebuild the old waste places, to raise up the foundations of many generations, to repair the breach, and to restore paths to dwell in (Isaiah 58:12). The initial calling was to yours truly, but it extends to anyone who will listen and obey.

And they
that shall be of thee
shall build the old waste places … .Isaiah 58:12

This is not the kingdom of Russell Yates, my associates, or you my reader—it is the kingdom of God. According to Psalms 127:1, any worthy project is a joint effort between God and people like us. Even if you don't feel qualified, you can still be part of the effort. As we prayerfully humble ourselves and put forth the effort, God will give us success. Marriage and family will again flourish—to the glory of God and to the relief of our children.

Let's get on with the job!

Except the LORD build the house,
they labour in vain that build it:
except the LORD keep the city,
the watchman waketh but in vain.Psalms 127:1

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